Like seriously, why isn’t pole dancing an olympic sport? This is freakin gymnastics. This is strength and skill. This is not sexual whatsoever. Why does pole dancing have to be so stigmatised as a sexual thing that only strippers do? I have great respect for all people who can pull this off. This is art and beauty right here.
HEY FUN FACT: pole dancing is known as something strippers do because strippers invented it. And that’s okay! It’s okay to have respect for strippers and the hard work they put into what they do! Let’s stop trying to take the stripper part out of pole dancing so upperclass white girls can do it without being ~stigmatized~ because god forbid women be sexual.
Type Contrast: ENTP vs. ENFP
Sometimes, people get stuck between ENTP and ENFP when it comes to personality typing. Don’t rely on online tests, because they are often inaccurate – learn the functions to determine your type. But here’s how to tell them apart.
Both types use extroverted intuition (Ne) as their dominant function, which means they will be verbal in sharing observations and ideas based in the world around them. Think of Lucy Maud Montgomery’s Anne Shirley (ENFP) and the 11th Doctor (ENTP): each is stimulated through their environment to share ideas with others. Anne renames all the roads and ponds in Avonlea on her way to Green Gables with Matthew – the Doctor picks up on connections between people and events and theorizes on them, often at awkward moments.
Both use introverted sensing (Si) as their inferior function, so on occasion they reference their interpretation of past events, always with a personalized connection to them – in Anne’s case, her despair over being forced to look after multiple sets of twins (not to mention holding on to a grudge against Gilbert for years); the Doctor sometimes recalls past incidents and races he has encountered and finds it hard to let go of people he has known and loved. Because it’s their inferior function, they reference things they’ve seen, read, and experienced but don’t particularly like to dwell on the past.
Then, their functions deviate. Because Ne is an objective function that takes in real information from its environment and translates it into ideas, the next function is a subjective function – for the ENTP, it’s introverted thinking (Ti), and for the ENFP, it’s introverted feeling (Fi).
Both personalize meaning to the information taken in by Ne, but for different reasons.
The ENFP: Anne Shirley wants to give everything she encounters emotional significance. Her trip with Matthew represents a new chapter in her life; she embraces that through making her environment her own, even though she can’t literally transform it. Anne utilizes extroverted thinking (Te) whenever she tells people the brutal truths they don’t want to hear: Rachel Lynd is indeed a “sour old gossip,” and she can never marry Morgan Harris. Te seeks truth and facts, which slips out even in Anne’s apologies (“What I said about you was true, too, only I shouldn’t have said it!”). Fi doesn’t expect others to agree with it, nor need them to, in order to make its own decisions (Anne has no problem standing up for herself, or correcting others).
ENFPs will refuse to compromise when their beliefs are challenged or violated, or they are asked to do something they think is wrong. Their Fi demands adherence to their own set of principles and independent emotion, and their Te causes them to actively defend it and flat out end the conversation: no, I won’t do it. Te assesses the facts and verbalizes them (which sometimes gets Anne into trouble when the truth slips out!). Te often likes to think out loud.
The ENTP: The Doctor is curious about everything, because he seeks to understand its logical significance. He is willing to accept any theory as possibly being true, because he doesn’t believe logic can be contained to facts. Ti works independently of facts and reaches its own conclusions, which it may or may not share with others. The Doctor is notorious for falling silent as he observes others, and withholding his conclusions from them. Ti never thinks out loud. We see his open extroverted feeling (Fe) in the way he’s anxious if his companions are fighting, his need for approval on his choice of garments, and his quick attempts to patch up misunderstandings. The Doctor is only content and at ease when everyone is getting along; he is unintentionally rude but quick to backtrack and try to fix it; he observes the customs of different societies, often without placing individual emphasis on his companions (oops, Clara, I forgot to mention that you’ll be naked, but we want to be polite, right?).
ENTPs need external validation on their emotions and behavior to feel secure in their moral decisions. They are happiest when compromises are reached and everyone is in agreement. The Doctor can take a firm and cold stance toward alien races, but only when they have sought to mass murder other races, which highlights his concern for humanity in general. This greater concern can overrule his affection for even his companions, such as the incident with Amy when he ruthlessly judged her for choosing to lie to him, rather than having him choose between saving an entire race of people or a star whale.
ENFPs are known for intensely personalized feelings backed up with a desire to hold to their beliefs and not compromise, while ENTPs are less likely to be insulted and are willing to compromise to keep the peace.
For the most part, the differences between ENTPs and ENFPs are also reflected in their introverted counterparts, although you will see Te usage less in INFPs (although they still use it to state brutal facts, when required — let’s not forget Rose’s statement to her mother in Titanic: “Shut up! The water is freezing and there aren’t enough boats! Half the people on this ship are going to die!”) and Fe less in INTPs (although, it’s still there — remember Arthur Weasley’s eagerness to appease his wife’s annoyance over the twins stealing the flying car!).
Like all extroverts, ENFPs have two prominent extroverted functions – Ne and Te, so you will see them the most.
Ne’s openness toward any and all ideas makes ENFPs the most open-minded of the feeler personalities. ENFPs don’t have to make value judgments before considering alternate ideas (unlike EXFJs or IXFPs); for them, the alternate idea is always worth considering. The ENFP might decide that they don’t believe this, or won’t do it (Fi), but their dominant Ne still considers the concept as valid, and doesn’t care if others do it, or believe it. Ne tends to cast a wide net, and keep what it likes the most, adding it to its lifetime’s catch; as a result, it gives the ENFP an enormous worldview, full of different cultures, beliefs, ideas, systems, and principles. ENFPs are willing to give anyone and anything a chance, and to try it at least once. Oh, and they like metaphors. You know, like the one I just used. ;)
They are creative, and go through a lot of different hobbies, interests, and theories in the course of a lifetime. Ne requires them to try out new ideas and Si demands that they learn all they can about it; but Si is pretty weak in the ENFP, so unless it’s really important or they’re totally obsessed about something, they may skimp on the details or reach the point of feeling they have a good enough “overall picture” to move on to another new interest. Since they do have dominant Ne, they’re also more prone to leaping right into learning or doing something before they are fully prepared, with total confidence that they can learn and revise on the way. (And they can do it effectively, thanks to their Te.)
Te turns up in ENFPs in their assertiveness about their opinions; they will keep the peace, unless something they feel strongly about is violated (Fi) or someone says something that is so totally irrational or narrow-minded that they can’t help calling them on it (Te). Younger ENFPs can be somewhat confrontational in this respect, because their immature Te wants to correct anything their Fi disagrees with. Te makes them frank in their opinions (we frequently make INFPs cringe due to our bluntness) and not likely to back down if challenged on an issue they care about. It can make them bossy, but they also use it to keep track of time, organize things, notice when stuff isn’t working, and take the most logical course to fix it.
Sandwiched in-between the enthusiastic, conversation-seeking Ne and the opinioned, action-driven Te, is Fi. It’s pesky, because it’s not a dominant, so often at the time, they don’t know how they feel about things. Unlike Fe-users, talking about how they feel won’t help them solidify their feelings; they find it uncomfortable to discuss their deepest feelings. Even though they are extraordinarily kind and loving, their inability to fully put their feelings into words can make them look “cold” to outsiders. ENFPs would rather take an outsider’s perspective to their own emotions, in an attempt to understand them; they’ prefer to discuss how they reacted to something (through action … Te) than how it made them feel. Typically, when something bad goes down in their life, they work through it alone. Sometimes, they might want to open up to someone and talk about it, but the idea of doing so is so deeply uncomfortable that they suppress it, or never send that e-mail, or tear up that letter. Because their Te is such close friends with their Fi, though, they are more obviously emotional than their introverted cousins, since they’re not as good at hiding their feelings. It channels into Te, which kicks into action (and can make us cry, dammit, even if we don’t want to).
Fi is private, but it’s also directly behind Ne, which is very forthcoming in “sharing,” while channeling into Te “directness,” so often they can “over-share” when they are young, and as they get older, may become more reserved and private (particularly if being too open with their views in the past has caused them pain). They’re most comfortable using metaphors and indirect ways of expressing their emotions and although they can be very kind and helpful in a bad situation, are somewhat envious of Fe’s ability to say the right thing at the right time. Their Te enables them to act on their feelings, morals, and principles, and be confrontational if necessarily, but typically these confrontations are objections to shutting down ideas (Ne), moral judgments they disagree with (Fi), or general unfairness (Fi), rather than confrontation on their own emotional behalf. If you hurt an ENFP, they will turn on passive-aggressive behavior rather than call you out on it like a Fe-user might.
Basically, a Fe user would say: “You really hurt my feelings,” bringing their emotions to the table for discussion and hopefully reconciliation; a Fi-Te user tends to take a more authoritarian stance, bypassing talking about their feelings in favor of a brutal judgment: “You’re a jerk, and I never want to see you again.”
In short: Ne makes them collect ideas, which then goes to Fi for processing on how they feel about it, or if it matches their personal moral beliefs, and then they act on the idea and belief with their Te, using their Si to keep track of details.
Instead of just looking up into the sky, you’re actually gazing down into the infinite cosmic abyss, with only gravity holding you onto the surface of the earth.
the divine is full of monsters;
incandescent giants who lick their gold teeth,
whose mouths are full of crumbling cities, who breathe
death and fire and revelation and madness while
diamonds crack like splinters of bone between their gums
their whims are carved in stone, sand, pillars of salt
their feathers sticky with luminescent blood, their fingers
thunderous with creation, lightning in their eyes
that crackles and hisses from every direction of the sky
the divine is not static and humane; the divine does not play nice.
they will eat everything you are.
they will leave you reformed in a roar of light, peel away layers of you like birth
and with a saint’s conviction you will know that nothing feels more like luxury,
better to be blinded by brilliance than close your eyes to awe-
for your lips are always being kissed.
your mouth is champagne roses. you will eat lotuses. your lungs are perfumed and
your bones will blossom into stars. your blood is wine and you are clothed in light;
your skin threshed wheatlike until the gold of you shines.
Tony Ward S/S 2013 + Shades of red
'The Nursery', a track that makes you feel so cold, but simultaneously, so safe. Featured in the movie 'Moon', wherein Sam Bell has almost completed his three-year work contract isolated on the moon away from his home, only to meet betrayal and self-awareness.
One thing I was thinking about today was Alexander Pierce. I feel like one thing that’s been under-discussed in Cap 2 meta (at least, from what I’ve seen on my dash— maybe it’s been talked about elsewhere!) is the privilege of Alexander Pierce, a privilege that is very deliberately communicated onscreen.
Pierce, as a character, is visually distinctive: he’s not just an older white man, but a very specific genre of older white man. His three-piece suits and tortoiseshell glasses suggest a fondness for the styles, at least, of some happier past: the gentlemen’s era (to me located sort of vaguely pre-Philby) when men like him knew how to be graceful with power, because it was something that came naturally to them, something they would never have to demand. His charm, his generally pleasant demeanor are of a piece with this— after all, as he himself tells Steve, he’s the diplomat: the one who keeps his hands clean while Nick Fury does what needs to be done.
HADES : Each one of my ribs, I will open each one of my ribs, with my nails I will break each one of my ribs so you can dive your fingers in my chest and feel the pulse of my heart. I will show you that life doesn’t need to be warm, doesn’t need to be dawn and emerald.
PERSEPHONE : I will spit between your ribs and you will survive on my contempt.